Anonymous said: Your thoughts on bestiality?
This is a toughy. I find it hard to tell anyone that their sexuality is wrong unless it harms other people, but the question of consent for animals is a huge morally grey area. On one hand, it would seem that most people who have sex with animals (or at least in porn) are people who get penetrated by a male animal. I guess that would leave me to believe that the person is not forcing the animal to have sex, but the animal’s naturally drive to have sex led it to go at it with the person. So is there a consent issue there? I don’t know. Or if a person penetrates an animal, how do you know the animal is willing? I have no idea. Surely we can agree that forcing an animal to have sex is a form of animal abuse, which falls under the category of sex that harms someone else, but again… Animals can’t talk. So does that make them automatically unable to consent to sex? Or does consent even apply to animals? I really don’t know. So again, this is a difficult question to answer from an ethical standpoint.
Anonymous said: Give relationship advice? :/
Sure, what kind of relationship advice?
Anonymous said: Have you ever been farted on?
Anonymous said: i have a vagina, how do i prevent queefing? my man isnt phased but its so embarrassing.
Well, unfortunately queefing is an inevitability when it comes to penetrative activities. There’s really no way to prevent it. My best advice is to make peace with your natural body functions, and learn to laugh a little. Laughter can be one of the best things about sex. You can bond with your partner, relax a little, and have fun.
Anonymous said: my partner and i have recently started getting more into (what i guess you would call) D/s stuff, like spanking, hitting, ordering each other around, etc. i'm looking for more stuff we can do to explore dominance like this but i'm having a hard time thinking of things. any suggestions?
I have two! First, read some books! A couple of good books for beginners would be SM 101 by Jay Wiseman, and The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton (the famed author of The Ethical Slut, which has practically become handbook on sluthood). Second, try finding a local group! I found a local BDSM group at my old town and started learning a lot through them. They would host educational demonstrations and discussions, and even do play nights where we got to play with other people’s gear and practice with each other. Very cool. You can try finding a group or mentor on fetlife. I found a mentor on there and I’m currently training with Florentine flogging. How cool is that?
Anonymous said: I'm a 23 year old female who has been single for two and a half years. My last relationship ended badly. I also had an abortion and was sexually assaulted around this time. Although it was very difficult, I dealt with it and moved on in my life. I am very healthy and emotionally stable, but my complete lack of interest and success on the dating front is starting to get worrisome for me. I feel completely stuck. What am I doing wrong?
Well, probably nothing. Long periods of unsuccessful dating is unfortunately completely normal. It’s probably all a matter of not finding the right person. Maybe if you broaden your social circle and meet new kinds of people, you might find someone who is interesting, and finds you interesting in return. But other than that, enjoy your single time, learn to be comfortable with being alone, and don’t put so much pressure on yourself. Sometimes it takes a while to find someone awesome, but its totally worth the wait.